Dancing Between The Extremes

Today I had the humble opportunity to get interviewed for a local newspaper about a new venture I’m starting. I was asked many questions, but one question I was asked was, “What does it take to be a successful entrepreneur?” It was strange to be asked that question because that was one of the questions I often pondered about the past few years. But on top of resourcefulness and resiliency, I said a successful entrepreneur is experienced enough to know how to dance between the 2 extremes of optimism and pessimism. What do I mean by that? I mean that ignorant and early “wantrepreneurs” have all of these ideas and think they can be billionaires just by having “the next Facebook.” However what they’ve failed to realize is that they’ve delved into the spectrum of optimism too much and have been blind-sided by the lofty dreams of becoming billionaires and having nice cars and mansions. On the other hand, once first-time entrepreneurs get a taste of “failure” and immediately dive into the deep end of pessimism, they think that their entire world is crumbling before them, and they fail to realize that they have more going for them than they realize.

A successful entrepreneur knows how to elegantly dance between these 2 extremes. Beyond meeting the requirements of having a good idea, assembling a good team and being resilient and resourceful, a good entrepreneur knows how to masterfully dance between the 2 extremes of optimism and pessimism. They know how to keep their head in the clouds but keep their hands on the dirt at the same time. It’s an elegant discipline of knowing how to control your temptations and emotions.

What You Act As If You Are, You Become

I came across this passage in a book today, and I though it was extremely eye-opening. Many of us “want” all of these things and to “have” X, Y, and Z. We believe having these things will allow us to “feel” or “be” a certain way (e.g. be happy, feel powerful, etc). But perhaps we have it the other way around.

Have patience with your Self, especially if your choices are not bringing you what you think you want. You say you want something, but you are not choosing it. You know you are not choosing it, because you do not experience having it. In truth, you have had it all along. You simply are not choosing it.

In the Universe, “havingness” does not produce “beingness,” but the other way around. First you “be” the thing called “happy” (or “knowing” or “wise” or “compassionate” etc.), then you start “doing” things from this place of beingness – and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you’ve always wanted to “have.”

Look at what it is you want to “have,” ask yourself what you think you would “be” if you “had” that, then go straight to being.

Act as if you are, and you will draw it to you.
What you act as if you are, you become.

Gratitude

This is just a short thought, but I’ve been re-reading some books on spirituality and living a “good life” and took some golden nuggets from these books that I want to continue using everyday. One of these concepts was on the power of gratitude. I’ve read again and again that gratitude is the most powerful cosmic thought in the Universe, and it’s really impossible to feel bad when feeling grateful. I have so many things in my life to be grateful for, and in my position, I’m aware of it every single moment of every day. But one thought I’ve been having in particular is around how much help we are getting in our lives. Have you realized how much help you’re getting from your friends, family, strangers, co-workers, etc? It’s insane! Many of us like to believe we’re independent and are getting along in life as “lone wolves” but just take a minute to think about all of the help you’re getting in life right now. I wrote down this thought:

Thank you Universe for bringing all of this help my way.

What You Resist, Persists

I opened up one of my favorite books again, Conversations with Godjust to refresh my mind on its contents and do some light reading. I came across some words that really resonated with me:

What you resist persists. That is because, by your continued attention to it in a negative way, you continue to place it there. You cannot resist something that is not there. When you resist something, you place it there. By focusing angry or frustrated energy on it, you actually give it more life.

This is why all great masters have urged us to “resist not evil.” Do not fight that which is opposite to your stated desire or your preferred outcome. Rather, relax into it.

Modification is creation. Resistance is the end of creation. It firmly holds the previous creation in place.